Mourning is About You...

Mourning a loved one has to be the hardest thing in life to do. I don't think there is anything harder than to think that you're never going to see that person on earth again. Of course, if you were both Christians you are going to see each other in Heaven. But I'm not going to talk about Heaven today. I'm going to talk about mourning and to give you an insight on making it easy. Mourning is for us. It is an action that's all about us.

There is a way to mourn that will give you the most difficult and horrible life ever. Then there is the way that God intended. Here on earth you mourn "things", "actions", or "catchy phrases" the loved one would say. You see, it was about what YOU remembered. We think how sad WE are. We know they are in a good place, but WE miss them. You see, mourning is about us. And that is not the way God or the person whom has past wants it to be.

The truth of it is, you choose to continue to remember your loved one with a sad memory. It's because that is the last memory you have of them. But that is not what they want you to remember. Your loved one wants you to be happy, so when you think of them they don't want you to think of death. They want you to think of a fun memory and laugh. And when you laugh know they are there with you.

Part of living depressed is a habit, part of it is a guilt. The guilt comes from feeling that you are not allowed to have a good time because your loved one it dead. First off, put yourself in the one love's shoes for a moment. That person is up with God! Do you really think they want you to be sad for them? When they are in the best place ever? They really don't want you to cry. Habit because it's easy to be sad. Sometimes it is a choice to be happy and some people choose to be emotionally lazy.

So next time you think of that  loved one try to remember a funny memory and laugh. And know they are with you. Then thank the Lord. In Jesus's Name, Amen